I’ve posted my story on Obama’s change.gov, to express my disappointment at his selection of Rick Warren to give the invocation at the inauguration. Here’s what I wrote:
I grew up in rural South Georgia. I was the skinny nerd, the one that got picked on, the one who was called ‘fag’ and ‘sissy.’ I struggled through my teen years, praying every day that God would make me straight, so that I could be like the other kids. I hated myself, and found myself falling into depression.
Finally I left the small town I grew up in to go to college in Atlanta. I met a person who is to this day my best friend, and came out to him. I was surprised and thrilled when he told me he was gay, too. Slowly, I began to accept my sexual orientation, and take pride in who I am, and who I had started to become.
I marched in the Pride Parades, I volunteered to raise money for AIDS charities when it was a “gay disease.” I met many wonderful and dear friends, and I cried when some of them died of that same “gay disease.” But still, my friends and I held on for the day when we would finally be treated equally, and could begin to forget the fear of hate and bigotry.
I thought that when you told us that we were welcome at your table that you were being truthful. I thought, “Finally, a President who says that we are as much a part of the fabric of America as everyone else.”
It appears I was wrong to think that. Instead, I know that when I’m at your inauguration that I’ll have to go silent again, withdraw into that same shell while a man filled with bigotry gives the invocation. I thought that things would be different, that it would be okay to be gay at your inauguration. I guess I was wrong. I can’t tell you how heartbroken and disappointed I am.